EMBRACING CHAOS
You must learn to embrace the chaos
You must learn to embrace the chaos
You must learn to embrace the chaos
You must learn to embrace the chaos
It is impossible to rearrange reality to avoid it! Those with kids… can I get an amen?!
A Story
I’m on the phone with a client and he said to me “I hate to say this but my kids often feel like a burden. They drive me crazy! Our home is in a constant state of chaos. Between messes, and kids fighting with each other and running to sports. It’s chaos!”
He was just being real. He wasn’t proud to say his kids felt like a burden or that he didn’t have control over the chaos. He sounded defeated…
I responded “when you feel burdened by your children what are they taking from the moment that you desire?”
His response… “well, I guess my peace. Most days it feels like I am in a constant state of reaction to the chaos!”
I asked “do you wake up before the kids to set your mind for the day? Do you carve out time in your day for physical activity?”
He didn’t… and I highly recommended that he should!
The reality is… when we feel annoyed, aggravated or burdened by someone or something it is because that someone or something is taking the place of something we desire or want more of. We must find quiet moments in our days to stay grounded. The Mornings are best for this. We must find times in our day to be physically active to release that energy in a healthy way. Plus, physical activity makes everyone feel better after. Physical activity is GREAT for our mental health.
This helps… but lets be honest… It only takes one chaotic moment to yank us out of feeling “grounded” (feeling like we have it all under control) You know, like when your kids or spouse knows exactly how to press your buttons?
I asked him…
“WHY? Why are you being emotionally yanked?”
He said… “I feel like I don’t have control over the situation… that leads me to feeling like I’m not a good Dad or husband. Then I’m frustrated with the situation/ my family and act in frustration”
And because he didn’t feel in control, he felt insecure. In insecurity he expressed frustration and anger. The root of his burden was his own insecurities as a father and husband. His desire was to be a better one… but felt like it was impossible!
Reality has a brutal way of showing us that we are NOT in control. No matter how hard we try…
WE CAN ONLY CONTROL OURSELF! The way we respond to situations and circumstances. That is WHO WE ARE. Who are you in the chaos?
Let be real!!! Theres no way to avoid chaos in life. There are times when everything will be completely out of your control. Embrace it!
HOW TO EMBRACE CHAOS?
-Mentally committing to embracing chaos. The mind is powerful.. once the mind is set you can accomplish great things
-Mentally Prepare. PROACTIVE> REACTIVE. Think back to when I mentioned waking up early, having quiet moments and working out!
-Work through problems and gather outside perspectives from trusted sources.
Do Hard things
EMBRACE THE CHOAS… CONTROL THE CONTROLABLEAS… let the rest go
BE PROACTIVE
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The hours between 4am and 7am have become my favorite time of the day. So much peace here